Graveyard is termed as the place of peace and to get a lesson from those who were once alive and are now dead and are buried under tons of soul, alone in darkness.
But there are many people, who think and even give evidences from hadtih that for men it is allowed to visit graves, but for women it is not allowed, in fact those women who visit graves are cursed. But there are mixed views about it. Many scholars and sects say that there are few scholars who permitted women to visit graves, and there are few who said it is makrooh, but there are also evidences from hadith that make women visiting graves permissible.
Before going into detail, we first see those ahadith and narrations that have relevant content regarding this issue.
Abdullah ibn Abee Mulaykah said, “One day when ‘Aa’ishah came from the graveyard, I asked her: O Mother of the Believers, where are you coming from? She replied: From the grave of ‘Abdur-Rahmaan ibn Abee Bakr. So I asked her: Didn’t Allaah’s Messenger (saw) forbid [women from] visiting graves? She replied: Yes. Then he instructed that they be visited.” (Al-Mustadrak, 1: 376 and Sunan al-Bayhaqee, 4: 78 Shaykh al-Bani authenticated in Ahkaam al-Janaa’iz, p. 181.)
A hadith of sahih Muslim says;
A narration recorded by Imaam Muslim in his Sahih on the authority of Sayyiduna Abdullah ibn Mas'ood (Radhiallaahu Anhu) that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) mentioned, 'I had prevented you from visiting the grave, (as of now) you all should visit it for it reminds one of the Aakhirat.' (Sahih Muslim)
These are the two evidences which approve the visiting of graveyards of females. But there are also some scholars who do not go by this point of view and use the following hadith as their evidence;
Imam Tirmidhi (RA) has recorded a Hadith of Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (Radhiallaahu Anhu) that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) has mentioned, 'May Allah Ta'ala curse women who visits the graves.' Imaam Tirmidhi has graded this Hadith as Sahih - authentic (Sunan Tirmidhi vol.1 pg.203)
A similar narration is recorded by Imaam Abu Dawud on the authority of Sayyiduna Abdullah ibn Abbaas (Radhiallaahu Anhu).
Therefore the ummah is divided on this issue, as if women can visit graves or not. But if we go by the ahadith mentions above, and the incident of amul mominin hazrat aisha (RA), we can say with utmost surety that it is absolutely permissible for women to visit graves. But to wail and cry out loud is not the right thing to do because it is prohibited by MUHAMMAD s.a.w.w.
Also for women to visit graves alone is also not liked because there could be some danger hidden inside the grave yard since grave yards are lone places so it is better for them to go there with other people. it is also not permissible to recite Quran on grave or to recite naat or any other thing on graves since nothing of that sort has been proven from the ahadith or quran.
But there are many people, who think and even give evidences from hadtih that for men it is allowed to visit graves, but for women it is not allowed, in fact those women who visit graves are cursed. But there are mixed views about it. Many scholars and sects say that there are few scholars who permitted women to visit graves, and there are few who said it is makrooh, but there are also evidences from hadith that make women visiting graves permissible.
Before going into detail, we first see those ahadith and narrations that have relevant content regarding this issue.
Abdullah ibn Abee Mulaykah said, “One day when ‘Aa’ishah came from the graveyard, I asked her: O Mother of the Believers, where are you coming from? She replied: From the grave of ‘Abdur-Rahmaan ibn Abee Bakr. So I asked her: Didn’t Allaah’s Messenger (saw) forbid [women from] visiting graves? She replied: Yes. Then he instructed that they be visited.” (Al-Mustadrak, 1: 376 and Sunan al-Bayhaqee, 4: 78 Shaykh al-Bani authenticated in Ahkaam al-Janaa’iz, p. 181.)
A hadith of sahih Muslim says;
A narration recorded by Imaam Muslim in his Sahih on the authority of Sayyiduna Abdullah ibn Mas'ood (Radhiallaahu Anhu) that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) mentioned, 'I had prevented you from visiting the grave, (as of now) you all should visit it for it reminds one of the Aakhirat.' (Sahih Muslim)
These are the two evidences which approve the visiting of graveyards of females. But there are also some scholars who do not go by this point of view and use the following hadith as their evidence;
Imam Tirmidhi (RA) has recorded a Hadith of Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (Radhiallaahu Anhu) that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) has mentioned, 'May Allah Ta'ala curse women who visits the graves.' Imaam Tirmidhi has graded this Hadith as Sahih - authentic (Sunan Tirmidhi vol.1 pg.203)
A similar narration is recorded by Imaam Abu Dawud on the authority of Sayyiduna Abdullah ibn Abbaas (Radhiallaahu Anhu).
Therefore the ummah is divided on this issue, as if women can visit graves or not. But if we go by the ahadith mentions above, and the incident of amul mominin hazrat aisha (RA), we can say with utmost surety that it is absolutely permissible for women to visit graves. But to wail and cry out loud is not the right thing to do because it is prohibited by MUHAMMAD s.a.w.w.
Also for women to visit graves alone is also not liked because there could be some danger hidden inside the grave yard since grave yards are lone places so it is better for them to go there with other people. it is also not permissible to recite Quran on grave or to recite naat or any other thing on graves since nothing of that sort has been proven from the ahadith or quran.